When is the best time to talk to the child about her/his CMTC? Should I, as a parent, take the initiative or is it best to wait until the child comes up with questions about this?
Never start yourself. Let the child come otherwise it seems as if the child has to solve the problems of the parents with his/her illness. Moreover, the child can come with questions that the parents have never thought about because the child has other priorities.
The child with CMTC does not seem to have any problems, but I as a parent do. As a parent, I find that the CMTC spots are ugly on her/his body. How can I best deal with this?
The parents can best deal with this as ‘WE’, in other words both parents need to make agreements with each other on how to deal with this. If necessary, ask for help from an older child psychologist who also has children.
The grandparents give the child with CMTC extra gifts and attention compared to the other children. How to deal with this?
Confront the grandparents and explain that they reinforce the child in his patient role and therefore in his separate (‘pitiful’) position compared to other children. The child does not build self-confidence and the other children ‘learn’ that they have to be pitiful to get attention.
When is the best time to talk to the child about her/his CMTC? Should I, as a parent, take the initiative or is it best to wait until the child comes up with questions about this?
Never start yourself. Let the child come otherwise it seems as if the child has to solve the problems of the parents with his/her illness. Moreover, the child can come with questions that the parents have never thought about because the child has other priorities.
The child with CMTC does not seem to have any problems, but I as a parent do. As a parent, I find that the CMTC spots are ugly on her/his body. How can I best deal with this?
The parents can best deal with this as ‘WE’, in other words both parents need to make agreements with each other on how to deal with this. If necessary, ask for help from an older child psychologist who also has children.
The grandparents give the child with CMTC extra gifts and attention compared to the other children. How to deal with this?
Confront the grandparents and explain that they reinforce the child in his patient role and therefore in his separate (‘pitiful’) position compared to other children. The child does not build self-confidence and the other children ‘learn’ that they have to be pitiful to get attention.
